As soon as a new fan appears on the horizon, most women clutch at him like a man drowning in a straw. Women want to build long-term relationships, get married, have a baby.
Perhaps the most important reason is the fear of loneliness. A woman is so afraid of being left alone that she agrees to those conditions that she previously considered unacceptable.
Just do not waste your life on a man who will never make you happy. Perhaps he is a good person, just not yours.
If in doubt and think you have made the wrong choice, this article will help you sort out your relationship. Below are 10 signs that will help you understand that a man is not suitable for you.
10. Lies
If a man is constantly lying to you, you should not hope that one day he will change. This is an adult with his principles and outlook on life. If a lie for him is in the order of things, get ready for him to deceive you for the rest of his life.
It is difficult to realize that a loved one is insincere, but if so, do not put off the conversation until later. First, try to find out the reasons for his lies, maybe something serious has happened, and he is trying to protect you from his problems.
If a man systematically lies to you, comes across a deceit, but continues in the same spirit, part with him immediately.
9. Sexism
If your man is sure that women are “second-rate” creatures, you are unlikely to be happy with him. He sincerely believes that women should obey men, and you can’t remake it.
Of course, if you love him with all your heart, you may think that you can meet his expectations. Before you agree to something serious, think about whether you can live like this for the rest of your life?
Your chosen one will never ask for your opinion. He will never help you around the house, sit with children, for him all this is a woman’s duties. He will never thank you for a delicious dinner or cosiness.
After a while, you will feel like a servant, a person who has no rights. Then you will regret that you agreed to a relationship with such a person, but it will be more difficult to change your life.
8. Lack of feelings
If your relationship is built on mutual benefit, or you are dating each other because there is no better option, do not waste your time.
Relationships without feelings are hopeless. Of course, they also have a place to be, and marriages are made not only for love. But what will you do if you marry, have children, and then meet your true love?
Do not be fooled if you do not love a man, you do not need to spend time on him. An even more difficult situation is when a woman loves and a man does not. She cannot refuse him, but it will be much more painful if he does not leave now, but after 5 or 10 years.
If between you there is no attraction and mutual feelings, it is better to leave.
7. Passivity
Perhaps now you like that the man in all obeys you. He is soft, indecisive, passive. You are forced to organize joint leisure, to solve all the problems that you have yourself.
Do not rush to connect your fate with a passive man, even if at the moment everything suits you. It will take several years, and you will be infuriated by its passivity.
If you decide to marry such a man, you will have to make him an offer, to organize a wedding, to find a home.
Get ready for the fact that in the future you will solve all the problems yourself. You will have to become the head of the family. If you are trembling from such a perspective, look for a more active man.
6. Other priorities
You dream about family and children and think that your chosen one dreams about the same. He can talk a lot about the future, but actions are much more important here.
You need to understand how he treats you. Maybe all his words are nothing more than a beautiful fairy tale. If you notice that in the first place he always has work, friends, entertainment, then he does not take you seriously.
If such a relationship suits you, then you can continue to date this man. Just do not count on a long-term and serious relationship.
5. Friends versus relationships
If your relatives and friends are opposed to your gentleman, take a closer look at him. Of course, you should not unconditionally trust someone else's opinion, but friends will not advise bad things. Perhaps they see what you do not see.
A woman in love is not ready to take off her pink glasses. Often, she herself sees that her chosen one is an unworthy person, but she still deceives herself and ascribes to a man qualities that he never possessed.
If you are not ready to part with your loved one, try to find out from friends the reason for their dislike of your chosen one.
4. Aggression
If a man is aggressive, what serious relationship can we talk about? From such a gentleman you need to run like from fire. If he behaves aggressively during the candy-bouquet stage, then after the wedding it will be even worse.
If a man allowed himself to raise a hand against you, leave, otherwise you will become a “whipping girl”. If a man communicating with you is polite and pleasant, but breaks down on relatives or staff, do not console yourself with vain hopes. Now he is pretending, but when you get closer, he will show what he is capable of. He will take off his mask and tear his anger at you.
3. Eternal discontent
If a man does not show aggression, but is constantly unhappy, look for another candidate for husbands. It refers to a certain type of people, it can not be redone. He will be unhappy all his life.
Now he does not like coffee from the restaurant and the weather, then he will scold your borsch and uncomfortable apartment. You can never please him. It will spoil your mood, always find a reason for discontent.
One day, you will realize that you made the biggest mistake in your life when you told him “yes.” Run before it's too late.
2. Unwillingness to compromise
Your man is stubborn, he always stands his ground and does not want to compromise. You think, “Okay, this time I'll give in.” Can you live your whole life at his direction?
Although there is another option for the development of events. If you do not agree with your man, then you have to swear. Quarrels, disputes, scandals will become commonplace. As a result, he will leave you and find one that agrees with any of his decisions.
If you are of the opinion that the man in the family is the main one and only he can solve important issues, this is the ideal option for you.
1. Does not keep the word
If during the candy-bouquet period you find out that a man does not know how to answer for his words, drop him. Otherwise, you have to live with a man who does not know what responsibility is.
You can not rely on him, he never keeps his word. Just for him, their affairs and problems are much more important than yours. This will continue the rest of his life.
You will have to answer for your own family, for the children; your husband will not help you in anything. He always has an excuse: "I forgot, I did not have time, I could not."
It is better to stay away from such a man, especially since you should not start a family with him.