Strong friendship is a great value. So that you can easily make contacts with new friends and make friends, we offer you 10 useful tips on how to communicate with people.
10. Listen carefully
The ability to listen carefully is not given to everyone. When talking, people often can not listen to the interlocutor, interrupt him: "And I have ...". People do not listen to each other; the main thing for them is to tell about their problems and experiences. But a person will be very pleased if you listen to him without interrupting with interest. Having delved into the essence of the issue, you can give him advice or sympathy. Being able to hear is very important. In response, he will listen to you with the same attention. In addition, you will not have to blush if, at the next meeting, your friend will again have to devote you to his problems with the words: "I told you about this last time!"
9. Show interest
If you are not interested in the conversation, the interlocutor will notice this. Neither nodding or pronouncing phrases of the same type will help. When a person realizes that you are not interested in communicating with him, he will be very unpleasant. Therefore, try to show interest in your friends, in new people in your life. Stop putting yourself in the first place. Think about the people you chat with. Everyone loves attention. Your interest will draw a new friend to you. If you are really not interested in this person, then you should not meet with him and maintain friendly relations.
8. Smile
People rarely smile at each other. Remember the last time you smiled at a stranger on the street? Do not remember? When talking, watch your face. Gloomy, forever dissatisfied people make an unpleasant impression, I do not want to contact them. A smile will help win over anyone. Smile, and in return you will receive a smile and a friendly attitude. But try to be sincere. A tortured taut smile will not add friendliness to your face.
7. To call the interlocutor by name
A name is a magic word that can influence the atmosphere and perception of a conversation. The name attracts the interlocutor, he listens more carefully to your words. When a person is called by name, on a subconscious level positive emotions and sympathy for the interlocutor arise. A person feels significant, respected. This is a very simple, but at the same time effective way to attract attention. But the person should be called as he introduced himself. The use of diminutive forms of the name is not allowed. Especially if you have a person who is older than you in age.
6. Respect other people's opinions
Without respect for the opinions of others, dialogue cannot be built. If the principles of your interlocutor are directly opposite to yours, do not dare or ridicule them. Everyone has their own point of view, do not make hasty conclusions. You do not know in detail how your new acquaintance lives. One must respect the opinions of others, whatever it may be. Do not be self-confident, perhaps after a while, you will understand why a person has such views. You will also be surprised how you could think of him like that.
5. Praise for achievements
A person needs approval of his actions, praise. It is not in vain that it is said: “A kind word is pleasant to a cat.” Do not be afraid to praise. Often people do not know how to do this, do not know how to enjoy other people's achievements. And if you want to praise, then finding words can be very difficult. No need to invent anything. May your praise be sincere. That's just to praise the specific achievements of man, and not his external or mental data. Praise carefully and in the case, so that your words are not perceived as flattery. Then your friend will feel significant, successful, and you will impress a pleasant person.
4. Be sincere
Sincere people are attracted by their positive attitude. They are kind and friendly, I want to communicate with them. People are in no hurry to open to each other. They are afraid to show their feelings, to be ridiculed or misunderstood. Nobody wants to be vulnerable, so a person hides his feelings and emotions. But the fact is that he himself also needs sincerity. Internal attitudes and past frustrations prevent him from being like that. This is how the “random travel companion” effect is explained. A person expresses his thoughts to strangers on trains or the Internet, because he knows that he will not have to meet these people in the future. From acquaintances, he expects misunderstanding and condemnation. Therefore, people are insincere in communication. They simply play certain roles, but they don’t show themselves to anyone.
3. Do not impose your point of view
If you do not agree with the interlocutor, do not impose your point of view on him. There is no need to bring a lot of arguments, challenge your case. You can say that you have your own vision of the situation. But do not bother and do not try to redo the views of your opponent. An argument is a struggle. People subconsciously try to spread their views, find like-minded people. But not everyone thinks the same way. If you impose your point of view on people, then soon they will not want to communicate with you.
2. Find common interests
If you have not only friendly relations with a person, but also common interests, then friendship will soon develop into a strong friendship. People with the same hobbies are pleasant and interesting to talk to. They are united by action. It does not matter what it is: flower cultivation, car repair or sports. They share experience, give advice, do something together. Of course, this does not include a joint passion for alcoholic beverages or drugs. Be prepared that people's interests are changing.
1. Do not be afraid to seem stupid
You worry all the time that they will think of you differently than they would like. Do not express your point of view, because you are afraid that it will be different from others. Yes, you are just afraid to look stupid. Do not be afraid to communicate with people. You have every right to your vision of situations, your thoughts and dreams. Other people express them, some with a special mind. All people are different. Even if someone looks at you askance, don’t worry. An adequate person will not make fun of your point of view. But others are not worth paying attention to.
Now you know how to establish contact with the interlocutor. Think less about what impression you make, smile more, communicate openly and then new friends will soon become friends.